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HOUSTON--You ve heard of long distance relationships, often prompted by a work situation or something unavoidable. But what about couples who purposely choose to live apart--even when it s a matter of just a few blocks?

After 28 years of marriage, Lise and Emil Stoessel are still very much in love, even though they haven t shared the same address in some time.

We ve been living separately for the last five years, said Lise.

The Stoessels hit a rut, but were not willing to give up after 28 years together. So, they moved away from each other. They found a way to make it work five miles away from each other.

It s not just about getting your own little needs met, explains psychologist Phyllis Koch-Sheras. It s about creating something really powerful.

She adds that couples need to stop focusing on the rules and focus on themselves.

Dr. Koch-Sheras and her husband have been together for 37 years. They wrote a book about lasting love, guided by the 4 Cs and tossed out the main rule of conventional marriage living together.

In their book, commitment is number one, followed by cooperation. They recommend creating a statement about your relationship so you are reminded why you are in this journey.

The doctor said, We put communication third.

Finally, there s community --share it with other couples.

In sickness and health til convention due you part? It s your choice.

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